@perpetuah Have you ever watched Friends? I watched it a million times growing up as a child and one of the biggest "life lessons" I learned was when Monica told Chandler "there's always a reason not to have a baby" but once the baby comes, you'll learn to make it work. Chandler wanted to wait because of his new job and no money. I really felt Monica's sentiment as I grew older. I'm not mature enough, I'm not rich enough, I'm not fit enough, my house isn't big enough, etc. When the time came where EMOTIONALLY I felt ready, I told my husband about the episode and he understood the sentiment as well. We definitely struggle of course, but at the same time, baby girl also keeps us going. There's never a perfect time to have a baby
I also think about my parents sometimes. They immigrated to America when I was 6 and they were 30 (my age now). No money, no language, no job... What. On. Earth. How did they make it work? I'm so impressed by them. It gives me strength, I can do it too