@feeltheshame This post definately resonates. I cant stand being shamed for something I have little control over once I've accounted for bills and started confronting people on their shit attitude.
I first noticed this with a colleague who I got on well with until I mentioned how difficult it is with little money left over and dealing with it as a single person. This colleague although we got paid the same crap wage had a partner who earned good money in IT. She seemed to bristle at the notion that she was in a better position and downplayed or dismissed anything I said thereafter about struggling saying it was just as hard for them as well.
These people went out to parties, meals and trips out with friends every week and had just bought a house whilst comparatively I was coming into work with holes in my clothing and staying at the office for the free heating and food.
We didnt seem to get on as well after this discussion.