@perpetuah I have friends who are struggling to pay for IVF. They did a TON of research and found loopholes and ways to make things happen with their insurance. If you have insurance, start there.
You have some time to work with. I don't know how old you are, but women often have more time than we think or are made to believe. Take this time to get yourselves ready. What is going to help lift you out of poverty before taking on something that could cripple your chances to get out? A certificate or degree? Moving jobs or areas of possible? Do you have support where you are or is there family nearby who can help?
Secondly here, I want to say that anyone who was raised in poverty is absolutely allowed to feel the way they do about their childhood. We all wish things were different. However, my childhood was a rollercoaster of finances. I am the youngest of 8. When I was really little we had nothing. No money, a 2 bedroom one bath house to live in that was always almost foreclosed. When I got to fourth grade, my mother graduated medical school and suddenly we could breathe and do things and my parents weren't stressed. But by the time I was in high school they had fallen into addictions and the money was almost always gone and it hurt. Poverty can hit us whenever, wherever- especially in the states. But doing what we can to get out is the best thing we can do right now.
Years ago I wanted kids. And my OBGYN gave me the best advice. Starting right now, act as if you are pregnant or could be at any moment. What decisions will you make? What foods will you eat? What vitamins will you take? How will you nest and prepare your home for a little one? Take the time to nest. To prepare. It may seem like a baby is SO far away, but in reality time will move regardless of what you are doing and you might as well enjoy it.
So as a run-down/ TLDR; start looking now for insurance, insurance loopholes, and grants for people looking into fertility measures. Try to imagine life a year or two from now with an infant. What do you want that to look like? What can you do to better your life right now? Go in that direction. Find a support system as that is paramount to success. It's going to be okay.