@anavah This isn’t exactly true, at least in my situation. Of course, yes, there are many that are as you say but unfortunately, I’ve had to make due with making having my kid fairly cheap.
I have no village. It’s me, kiddo and disabled husband. The only times I’ve slept away from my kid was when I’ve been hospitalized & she stayed home with dad. I’ve never paid for childcare or had a baby sitter or anything else of that nature. I would have never been able to afford it anyway, so I found ways around it. We didn’t win preschool lottery so she never went.
I am in no way privileged. Sure, I got lucky and found myself a contract gig I could work from home since she was born but that was a niche market that I’ve been into since before I became an adult - and it wasn’t without sacrifices. I worked when baby was asleep, I worked when it was feeding time at night, I worked whenever I could.
I still don’t spend a lot of money of her though. I don’t keep up with the jones and I very rarely buy new. I suppose, yes, I’ve been lucky she’s had great health and we haven’t had issues with that. My health, on the other hand, is absolutely horrid - botched csection lead to a hysterectomy, which lead to another serious medical disorder, I developed seizures from a car accident, I could go on further with my shitty genetics which require me to be on about 10+ medications.
We build forts (still, she’s 9) out of cardboard boxes and duck tape. I craft and make things & Halloween costumes out of old baby clothes & blankets, sheets, thrifted items, etc. I buy clothes off eBay and threadUp and resell them when need new clothes. School supplies I buy year before after sales, etc.
Maybe I am lucky or privileged. I certainly don’t feel that way, I work 50+ hours/wk, 2 jobs, 3 sometimes when needed if a car needs a random repair or whatever.
You can make things affordable. It just a lot of work and trying and failing and trying some more.
You make do with what you have. And find ways to make it work.