Am I wrong to believe that my partner buying a house with his mom, plus getting a van to live in, is a terrible idea?

[cutin]

@oneservant As a side note, it costs about $20k to build out a van for comfortable living long-term. I've done it before. And that's if you do it yourself, not hire a pro. Which means you need skills, and tools; read: time and money.

 

[oneservant]

@cutin Oof, okay good to know. Thank you.

 

[mss91z28]

@oneservant Does he have his own place? As 1300 is room rent in a lot of nicer areas/homes now.

 

[oneservant]

@mss91z28 He does yes—he locked it in a few years ago, and is in a good location downtown.

 

[mss91z28]

@oneservant Guy would probably pay nearly 1300 a month things like condo fees and property tax. Can't get ahead? He has an excellent deal at the moment. You have to throw money into property you own too.

 

[rickram]

@mss91z28 Way more than that in interest.

 

[resjudicata]

@oneservant He would be much better holding on to that apartment and saving up. Giving up his rent controlled place to buy his mom a house that will be in her friends name while he ends up homeless in a van seems like the worst possible plan.

 

[liwinedivas]

@oneservant As a fellow torontonian - his rent is insanely good. Why the hell does he want to leave?!

 

[aazae17]

@oneservant Does he have a place to park this van when living in it? I can't imagine it's that simple in Toronto.

 

[jordanl103]

@aazae17 Walmart will usually let you. I've slept at Mc Donaldses' with no issue as well. Heard some people use hotels since people come and go. A huge mall or any huge parking lot. I don't think that's much of an issue. Plus he mentioned parking at work, so I presume work?

 

[harmano1]

@oneservant This is were your income comes in. Walk away now

 

[mamartinezzx]

@harmano1 I agree. I tell so many young women not to waste their youth with "partners." But they never listen until it's too late. The Mom will never be self supporting and can just not pay the rent and son will be on the hook. You will what, live in a van, never have kids or live with the Mom and be her caregiver later on. No future here.

 

[kelligagnon]

@oneservant He sounds like an idiot to be honest.

 

[itsthatislandgirl]

@kelligagnon Totally. Hopefully he has some redeeming qualities? He sounds like a total ding dong.

 

[hurdygurdyman]

@kelligagnon 100%

 

[garnett64]

@kelligagnon LOL that was my thought after I read the first couple of paragraphs. Yikes. I would be dumping his ass.

 

[oneservant]

@garnett64 I did lmao

 

[theleapofaith]

@oneservant Honestly, if you don’t plan on marrying him, get away. That’s way to messy and you’d be marrying in to that debt, and affects your life then

 

[jparadise]

@theleapofaith How could you possibly stay? He wants to live a Van Life style in Toronto? that doesn't even make sense.. let alone where would the partner live? Have they ever done it?

Van life makes sense outside big cities because you can park where ever and have amenities etc and travel but a Van in the city has by laws etc..

 

[angiasky89]

@jparadise Yes! If he had a remote job I wouldn't be totally against van life, but he still has to commute everyday in the city? There's no way it will be sustainable