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@kdjlove No sweat! Realizing my post could use some clarifying. He hasn’t bought a van yet—he says he wants to buy both the house and van at the same time. He wants the van because the only houses he could afford (even with his mom) are outside of Toronto, and he doesn’t want to deal with long...

@nzubechi lol fr

@hiatus Thank you so much for the advice, it’s immensely appreciated. I’ll try to talk him out of all of this of course, but if he’s adamant, I’ll pass on your advice to him re having a really solid legal agreement in place.

@portal542 Thanks for the reply and for reading the post. Would you be able to explain the extra issues I’m maybe not considering?

@garnett64 I did 🙃 lmao

@mss91z28 He does yes—he locked it in a few years ago, and is in a good location downtown.

@cutin Oof, okay good to know. Thank you.

@mss91z28 That’s what I’m thinking, too. His rent is already really low. He’d likely be committing to at least double in housing costs, not leaving him a lot aside for much else, esp considering the van purchase and such.

@theperfectbone Huh lol? Is it possible that my post is confusing and needs to be clarified? I’d continue living in my own place that I rent and pay for on my own. He does not financially support me at all—if anything I’ve been contributing more to our relationship financially than he has, and...

@a1limorepair Sadly this is something I’m considering now.

@galiaw What do you mean? The two of us don’t live together. I tend to treat us to surprise outings more than he does, but am happy to do it and things feel overall balanced. Is the assumption that I’m going to live with him in this house? I’m not going to, he’s doing all of this on his own...

@markedbychrist All great questions, some of which I’ve had myself. I wish I could give you answers.

@mariiah I didn’t know this, thanks for sharing!

@a1limorepair That’s a good point, too. A real estate/contract lawyer would be the way to go.

@sarahz Good call re him trying out van life for a while first! I’ll suggest this to him. Thank you, and glad to know a solid contract between him and his mom’s friend could make this work. Agreed that the mom is a wildcard here though.

@aym Thank you—I appreciate knowing that I’m not the only one seeing the red flags here. Re the friend, he seems to think she’d be giving him a loan plus ownership of the house. I guess this is doable and would depend on how they go about it.

Context: we’re both 28 in Toronto, been dating over a year. He makes 80k/year and is currently paying ~1.3k/mo in rent. He’s talked for a bit about buying a van to live in, then committed to doing it with a friend of ours about a month ago, starting next year. Now, he’s saying he wants to buy...